Giving up is not an option (a story of increasing calories)

A true athlete, MrsBigMack discovered during her weight loss journey that she needed to properly fuel in order to reach her goals.  If you know her from MFP or her blog “im.seeking.balance” then you know that her decision is paying in full.  Yay for us, she’s agreed to an interview to share her well-fueled experience with the EM2WL family.

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Before” pic ~218 lbs

How long have you been on this journey?

I started putting on weight in my childhood but really began packing on significant weight in my teens and my early 20’s. In 2000 I began taking kickboxing classes and trained 4-5 hours a week but just had no idea what a healthy diet looked like. In 2001 I topped out at 218 lbs at 5’7″… I was 26 years old.

The only thing I knew about weight loss was Weight Watchers. My dad had been a Lifetime Member; my parents had first signed me up for it when I was 12. In 2002 I walked through the doors again; I lost exactly 52 pounds in 52 weeks to reach my goal weight of 158 lbs. I, too, am now a Lifetime Member.I maintained that loss until summer of 2005 when I got pregnant for the first time. During that pregnancy I had Gestational Diabetes that wasn’t caught until week 28; when all was said and done I’d put on 70 lbs. The extra 35 or so stayed with me until I decided to get serious again.

I knew I was ready to get rid of the weight for good in January 2012. My life had calmed down some after a crazy couple of years that included the birth of my 2nd son, the death of my husband, quitting my job of 12 years, remarrying and moving to a new town with my boys. So starting in January 2012 I lost 36 of those leftover pregnancy pounds. I was back to 158 lbs by maybe August some time. I actually don’t remember.

 

When did you first learn that you needed to eat more to reach your goals? What was your original response?

When I was on Weight Watchers in 2002/03, the program was called Winning Points and they gave you a 5 point range for each day and you could also earn extra points from exercise. Well at that point I was training in kickboxing, doing bikram yoga and starting to run regularly and I was hungry. I mean REALLY hungry.

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Progress in 2012

I ate every point they allowed me. I learned to eat the low fat high fiber foods to get more for my points. I ate every activity point I could add. And then sometimes I felt so deprived that I went out and essentially binged or just quit tracking and ate a big cheat meal and felt mentally defeated. I noticed, however, that those times I ate more I’d have a better loss on the scale.

I trained for and ran my first half marathon in 2003 as I was approaching my goal weight. I remember the weekly losses being painfully slow… it was like -.2, -.4, 0, +.2, -.6, -.2, +.2… it went on for months. As my running mileage picked up, the losses were harder to come by. Eventually, I was about 4 lbs above my goal weight and super frustrated. My leader suggested I take a break and eat at “maintenance”, which meant adding 4 points per day (that was maybe 2-300 calories). Well lo and behold I did that and had two 3lb losses in a row, taking me to below my goal weight. Something clicked for me right then and there. Too bad it was after all the hardest of the work was done, but a valuable learning experience nonetheless.

When I decided to begin anew in 2012, I just knew from the start that I needed to eat enough to run well. A friend had challenged me to another half marathon and I figured it was a great time to really make the effort and take these pounds off once and for all. I started with Weight Watchers online, but by April of 2012 I switched to calorie counting on My Fitness Pal; I was still starving on Weight Watchers and hated that I felt like a failure every time I went over my points even though I knew I needed more food.
How did/do others around you act about your decision to discard the usual low cal methods for weight loss?

Nobody really knew what I was doing except for my husband. When I switched from Weight Watchers to My Fitness Pal I went for a DEXA scan to figure out where my goal weight should be – if 158 lbs was still reasonable for me. I originally chose it because, at 5’7″, it’s the highest weight I can have and still be in the healthy BMI category, not that I really put much stock in the BMI as an indicator of health.The guy who did my DEXA in Vancouver suggested a caloric intake level for me based on my lean body mass and activity level. At that point he suggested increasing calories to around 1800-2000 calories and 120g protein daily. He also told me I should absolutely not have a daily deficit of more than 400 calories. Honestly, having someone give me some solid information that would make me stronger and leaner and not just lighter was absolutely invaluable.

 

How did your body react initially to increasing calories?

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Tough Mudder

I wasn’t losing particularly quickly on Weight Watchers: I lost 14 lbs from January to March. When I first started My Fitness Pal I set my lifestyle factor to “sedentary” and my weight loss target to lose 1/2 a pound weekly. That gave me a net target of 1660 calories. As I had always done with Weight Watchers, I ate back my exercise calories – since the program added them it just seemed like that’s how it was supposed to work.I dropped 8.5 lbs in the first 5 weeks. That’s when I first figured out that I was obviously burning more than at the sedentary level; turns out that as a stay-at-home-mom I’m actually burning at My Fitness Pal’s “Very Active” level before I even get in my workout… higher in fact.

 

Has proper fuel affected you in ways other than weight loss? (Good or bad)

Well I just don’t think I would have kept going with the level of restriction I’d been trying to meet.

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Spartan Sprint

I first noticed it in June 2012. I was preparing to run a 10 mile race from the beach to the top of a mountain, 4300′ up. I figured that would be a decent test of my endurance in advance of the half marathon I was scheduled to run that August. I decided I would eat at my full maintenance calories for two weeks before the event. I had already lost 20 lbs and figured a two week hiatus from dieting couldn’t hurt. I wanted to see how well I could perform if I gave my body all the fuel it was trying to burn.

Well after about 4 or 5 days of eating 2500 calories daily I went for a 10 mile (16km) run and it was like magic. With the increased energy I just knew I could actually run the half marathon in 2 hours. I ran the first 10km of that training run at my half marathon race pace and the next 6km at my 10k race pace. It was amazing.From then on I decided I’d eat at maintenance for at least a full week before every race. It would be a waste of a race effort if I didn’t. I guess I started feeling like a real athlete instead of someone just exercising to lose weight… an amazing turning point in my motivation; now I eat to fuel my machine.

 

Can you describe your typical workout schedule?

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Oct.  ’12 – Before I started lifting

Yeah. Well, until October 2012 I just ran and did Insanity videos and a local boot camp class for cross training when I could squeeze it in. I run because I love it, though… not what I’d call a cardio junkie, but I didn’t really feel the need to lift any weights. I was already pretty big with about 120 lbs of lean body mass at 5’7″. I would run 3-4 days a week and cross-train 2 days a week and take 1 rest day. I was burning an average of about 3500 calories weekly according to my Garmin.

After my 2012 race season ended at the end of September I decided to start lifting weights. The heavy lifters in the My Fitness Pal community got to me and I figured I’d give it a shot. It was tricky though… I didn’t want to give up running and the endurance I’d built up, but I knew that endurance running was almost completely contrary to the purpose of lifting.After a little shopping around for a program I decided to do Stronglifts 5×5 and set my schedule, roughly, to RUN, LIFT, REST, RUN, LIFT, REST… so I was lifting less often than the Stronglifts program recommends (every other day) but was able to get that rest in after lifting. At this point all my runs were under an hour… most of them the 3-5 mile (5-8km) range. I also changed my calorie calculation method at this point from My Fitness Pal’s NET method to something more like the TDEE method – just the same number of calories each day. At this point I figured my TDEE was somewhere around 2500 calories so after some fiddling for a few weeks with 2000, 2100, 2200, 2300 I finally settled on 2300 daily and remained pretty consistent with that through March of this year.

I got really frustrated in the spring when I really saw no change in my weight or even my measurements really.

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Lifting Comparison

Then I finally decided to take a photo in roughly the same pose and with the same shirt as the photo above. What I found was there were changes taking place that I couldn’t see.

My training schedule right now includes about 6 hours of combined cardio and strength training over 5 days of the week. I don’t believe in spending hours in the gym each day. In the words of Sweet Brown: “Ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat!”It looks something like this: Lifting 3 times a week (Stronglifts 5×5), running 3 times a week (long run, tempo run, interval/hill run), and 1-2 cross training sessions of maybe 30 minutes. I usually take a rest day every 4-5 days. The truth is, though, my schedule is all over the board. My husband works shift work and we have 5 kids between us, so I just get my workouts in when I can and I have to stay flexible. I work out in my home gym… and on the road and trails.

 

You run AND lift, have you found that this requires you to eat more/less of calories in general, or specific nutrients/macros?

I’ve never made a big deal about macros. I do have a protein target since that seemed to be the magic piece of the puzzle for me. I eat between 120 and 160g of protein daily since I weigh just under 160 lbs with about 120 lbs of lean mass; that’s where those numbers come from. Once I’ve hit that protein target in a day, I’m not too picky about where the rest of the calories come from. I let my appetite and my body dictate. The truth is that my dietary needs on a day I run 14 miles is completely different than on a day I do a 30 minute strength training session and I think I just naturally eat accordingly at this point.As long as I hit my protein target and my calorie goal I’m golden.

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Ugly Lifting Face

Did finding your sweet spot take a bit more finagling than you originally thought or was it spot on from your first calculated estimate? If it took longer, was it worth it?

Well I guess that depends on whether or not I’m happy with my results.  I didn’t really struggle to find that place where I could lose the fat to begin with… well, most of it.  I’m still not super lean though.  I figure my body fat % to be around 23% now… not bad for a woman pushing 40 I guess, but I still have a little pet dream to get under 20% and I’m finding it increasingly difficult. It’s like the leaner you get, the more you train, the smaller the window… the smaller the sweet spot. I think I may have found it now, though.  I had intuitively figured my TDEE to be about 2500 calories daily; it was pretty consistent with the calculators out there even though it was hard to classify my workout schedule. But recently I did an experiment with a Body Media Fit (Link) and after 3 weeks it pegged my average TDEE at about 2850 calories daily so I had definitely underestimated it.

I didn’t actually believe it at first so I did an experiment for 3 weeks and ate pretty much all those calories – increasing calories to an average of 2650 daily for 3 full weeks and didn’t gain an ounce. I was shocked. It was a huge relief to know I could actually eat more food than I even really wanted to and not gain.
Because of that experiment, my new target is 2100 calories PLUS all my exercise calories; that should leave me with about a 200 calorie daily deficit. I’m hoping this will put me right in the sweet spot.

I’ll let you know how it goes. Seems like a lot, right?

 

Any parting words of encouragement to those who are new to eating more, struggling with the decision of whether or not to fuel properly, or ready to give up?

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Current

There is so much misinformation out there. There are so many people trying to sell you something and keep you down so you’ll keep buying what they’re selling. Trust the science. Trust your body. Think long-term.Your body is amazing. Feed it. Treat it like a machine… it is the most intricate machine on the planet. Find your inner athlete.

This isn’t about weight loss; your weight doesn’t explain what’s going on inside. Your scale doesn’t know if you’re hydrated or dehydrated, carb-loaded or glycogen-depleted, pumped from a good strength workout or sick from a week-long stomach flu. The weight on the scale is no indicator of health and it doesn’t define you.

Keep pressing on. Giving up is not an option.

 

A few resources I’d like to share:
My MFP Profile: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/mrsbigmack
My Blog: http://imseekingbalance.com
My Instagram: http://instagram.com/mrsbigmack

I had my doubts… (another Eat More 2 Weigh Less success story!)

I had my doubts… (another Eat More 2 Weigh Less success story!)

Journey update from this post.  weigh less

Well I’ve been eating more to weigh less for a year and three months now. It has been a wonderful, wonderful… Did I say wonderful, experience?! Eat More 2 Weigh Less has changed my life! I eat 2189+ cals a day… Yes I said a day. I exercise way less strength train, weight train and do a little cardio.

I had my doubts in the beginning but I stuck with it.  I stayed dedicated and true to myself and ate more.  Who doesn’t want to eat more and weigh less!?!

This is a hard journey as it is to have to worry about a diet, but EM2WL has made it a easier process.  There is no diet to worry about (losing then gaining it all back plus some). When I first started this journey I didn’t know anything about losing weight so I asked my doctor for help.  He handed me a 1200 calorie diet, that’s what I stuck to for about 7 months.

I didn’t like it – limiting my food, feeling dizzy cause I didn’t eat enough, and I had less energy than I do now.  I was told to work out a lot, so I did — and yes I lost weight, but I still wasn’t happy.  I didn’t want to feel the way I felt just to lose weight.  Then Lucia and Kiki shined their light on me and changed my life forever. I can’t thank them enough! I am more than happy now and I look forward to continuing my journey!weigh less

 

 

 

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Sandi – Still shrinking…despite the scale not moving

Sandi – Still shrinking…despite the scale not moving

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3 weeks progress – (recent on left)

I started out my weight loss journey eating a very low calorie diet and not doing much outside of my normal activity for exercise.  While the pounds were dropping off at a great pace at that time my body started telling me something different.  I started losing my hair, was exhausted constantly and even lost TOM (time of month).  I knew something was wrong and started with a personal trainer and researching.  Finding the EM2WL group helped immensely and my whole thought process around this has changed.  It is no longer a weight loss journey, but a fat loss journey focusing on strength.

My weight has stabilized for now, but the inches are slowly going down. I gained a pound and lost an inch in my waist over the past few months.  My smaller clothes are fitting better.  My back is better.  I had forgotten how strong I was when I was younger, but am now rediscovering my muscles.

I now have new goals in mind.  My main goal is to be able to do a pull up and a dip unassisted by the end of the year.

Weight is not as much of a concern anymore.  Yes, it is hard when I occasionally weigh in and don’t see progress, but that is when I just need to pull out my phone and look at all of the progress pictures to see that my hard work is paying off.  Keep eating and your body will transform.  I am constantly amazed at what my approaching 40 year old body can do.

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7 months progress – Only 8lbs lost! The scale does NOT tell the whole story!

Follow Sandi’s Journey here.

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One year, 61 pounds, & 15% bodyfat later…

One year, 61 pounds, & 15% bodyfat later…

Today marks 365 days of logging into MFP.  I haven’t missed a day so it was exactly 1 year ago that I decided enough was enough, got my a** into gear, and changed my life.

Let me back up a bit and explain what led me to that point (but feel free to skip to the pics)

I’ve struggled with weight all my life.  About 7 years ago though, I was put on Phentermine and lost about 30 lbs.  For one all too brief year, I enjoyed being skinny (I wasn’t in the least bit fit) but after I got married, I got lazy and gained all that weight, and a hell of a lot more of it back.

April 2012, I went to India for 3 weeks on a business trip.  During the trip I met many amazing people.  One of their favorite things to do was to take pictures, chuckle about how white I was compared to them (I’m Irish-Scottish, I can’t help it), then post the pictures up this side of Facebook and down the other.  One night after work, I was back in my hotel room logged into Facebook, and I got an eyeful of just how viral these pictures went… I cried myself to sleep that night and a couple more nights following.  Here are just a few of them…

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After this, I cancelled my FB account so I wouldn’t be face to face with reality and went on with life.

I got home from India May 5th, 2012 but it took me until May 30th to find and get on MyFitnessPal. Once I did join though, I joined with my full heart. I am lucky enough to have an amazingly supportive husband who when I flipped our lives upside down in pursuit of a healthier life and weight loss, he just said “Okay, what can I do to help?”
I started out with the 1200 calories MFP allotted and lots and lots of cardio. Then I found the group Eat More 2 Weigh Less which had me doing just that.  I figured out my TDEE, subtracted 15%-20% and got heavily into weightlifting, starting with the program in the book New Rules of Lifting for Women.  After I finished that program, I moved on to Cathe Fredrich’s STS and am currently in the middle of my 2nd round.  I absolutely love it and the results are freaking awesome.

I was also very fortunate to develop the best friends list on MFP.  I freaking love you guys.

Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way that helped me succeed….

1. The scale is a dirty rotten liar and cannot be the only method of tracking progress.  I learned to check and monitor progress by how my clothes feel, how I look in the mirror, pictures and measurements, and not just by the reading on the scale.

2. Setting and sticking to a rigid pound goal didn’t work for me.  I originally set my goal to 120 lbs which, come to find out, isn’t what I want because to get there, I would either need to fall into the low teens in BF% or sacrifice lean mass (no thank you).  Instead, I’ve focused on a goal BF% of between 18-20% which using the ideal body weight calculator on Fat2FitRadio.com, gave me a pound goal of 130.  I started back in May of last year at around 35% Body Fat or more (I’m guesstimating).  Today, I’m happy to report after getting my BF% tested in a BodPod, I’m at 20.9%.  I’m so close I can taste it.

Here are how a few of my measurements changed:
Natural Waist = 36.5 to 26.5 (- 10 inches)
Thigh = 25.75 to 20.25 (- 5.5 inches)
Chest = 37 to 31 (- 6 inches)
Hips = 43.75 to 31.75 (- 12 inches)
Bicep = 13.5 to 11.25 (- 2.25 inches)

3. I don’t have to starve to lose weight. Thank god because I have a very VERY healthy appetite.  I’m very grateful I found EM2WL only a few weeks after deciding to change my life.

Okay, enough blabbing. Here are my progress and NOW pics!

This first one is 25 lbs down…
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This one is 36 lbs down, what I thought at the time was my ½ way mark…
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This is a difference of 50 lbs… and the pic on the right is somewhere around 35% body fat, the pic on the left is 24.5% body fat…
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This is 60 lbs lost…
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These are a couple tummy comparison pic from about when I started to this past weekend.

And here are a few more now pics just for fun :)
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I remember just starting out and spending a lot of time looking at others success stories. I hope this provides motivation for someone somewhere to not give up, to keep going, to get it done, like so many success stories did for me.

Why Am I Losing Weight?!?! Eat More 2 Weigh Less

Why Am I Losing Weight?!?! Eat More 2 Weigh Less

losing weight Most of you know that I started EM2WL at the end of January.

But what some of you don’t know is that I had hit a plateau before that while eating 1300 calories or less and doing Turbo Fire.   After joining EM2WL and  increasing my calories to around 2000, I broke my plateau and lost 4 pounds.   Then I started Stronglifts 5×5 on February 7 and decided to ditch the scale because I just needed a break from it. I started noticing my appetite increasing because of the heavy lifting, so I decided to up my calorie intake.  I had been making pretty good progress gaining strength and losing inches, so I decided maybe it was time to jump on the scale.  Well, a couple weeks ago, I weighed in and saw that I had gained those 4 pounds back.  So I emailed one of my EM2WL buddies and asked for advice.  She told me not to worry about it because it was most likely muscle gain and some water weight.

She then advised me to, brace yourself, UP my calories!

Well, I decided when I started this that I am in it for the long haul so I took her advice and upped my calories by 200.  She also suggested I download the Happy Scale app and weigh myself daily to track my weight fluctuations, doing this would also help me to find my true TDEE.  So 2 weeks ago I began tracking my weight daily.  The trend on my reports has been consistently going down, and since I am trying to find my TDEE before I cut, I upped my calories another 200.  I weighed myself today and have lost more weight!  Since upping my calories by 400, I have lost 2 of those 4 pounds!  Is it really possible to eat 2700 calories a day and lose weight?!  Well, that’s where I am at.  I do Stronglifts 3 days a week and cardio on my off days, if I’m up to it, and EAT 2700 CALORIES A DAY and I am loving it!

losing weightI am sharing this because I have several PALS who are frustrated because they are not losing weight, they’ve “hit a wall,” well, I want to tell you folks that sometimes the solution is not to lower your calories, but increase them.  I truly believe the reason my body was holding on to those 4 pounds is because of the strength training I am doing. It needed more fuel and I wasn’t eating enough, so it held on to what I had.  Now that I’m fueling it properly, it seems like it’s trusting me again and starting to release.  I will continue to keep you all updated on this new journey.  Again I know it’s slow, but it’s just so much better for me!  I am living life, enjoying it, and building strength I never knew was possible!

Follow my Journey here.

 

How did this happen? – Helene’s One Year Update (Trust the Process!)

How did this happen? – Helene’s One Year Update (Trust the Process!)

trust the processI’ve been part of this wonderful EM2WL family for a year now.

I’m nowhere near my goal weight…in fact, I’m actually farther away from my goal now than I was when I joined this group (thanks Christmas 2012!!!)

But even though the scale hasn’t shown much weight loss, my body has obviously been changing…something I failed to see with my own eyes until my daughter pointed it out to me one evening.

When I joined this group, I began strength training and eating more. Lots more. I increased my calories slowly and it took almost 6 weeks for me to even drop one measly pound.

I hung in there though. Through the highs and lows (and trust me, there were plenty of lows).

When I took the picture from today (on the right), I was shocked by what I saw in comparison to my picture from last year at this time (on the left).

How did this happen? How could I have not seen how much my body had been changing over the last year?? Even going by my measurements, I still would never guess I had this much progress in my abs.

This is why you NEED to take pictures! This is why you cannot rely on the number on the scale!! This is why the measuring tape doesn’t tell the whole story!!  Trust the process!

Believe me when I tell you that I weigh 6 pounds more now than I did a year ago but I’m obviously much leaner.  I would’ve never even realized how far I had come if not for these pictures.

I didn’t do hundreds of crunches or sit-ups. I didn’t log endless hours walking on the treadmill. I’m not one of those people who was blessed with awesome genes.

trust the processI’m someone who has had to fight every moment to get to this point. I’m someone who lifted heavy and pushed herself to failure. I’m someone who stopped starving herself, while expecting miracles. I’m a busy mom of 4 young children who works out at home to DVD’s…not someone who spends hours in the gym. I only have 30-60 minutes a day to commit to my workout.

Just trust the process. It does work. Just a little while ago, my weight stalled and I was stuck gaining and losing the same 2 pounds but I took some wonderful advice from the people here and increased my calories from 2000 to 2200 and reduced the amount of cardio I was doing and…BAM…the weight is coming off again.

Granted, I still have a lot of weight to lose but I’ll get there. These pictures are proof that I can and will do it.

And you can too!!!

Oh and TAKE THOSE PICTURES!! Hopefully, a year from now, you will be so happy you did!!!

 

 

ETA 10/16/13:  Speaking of pictures…we’ve just received another updated one from Helene…with a message!

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