Beating Stress – Stress Management

Beating Stress – Stress Management

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Guest Post by Trish

I am a huge advocate for stress management and ridding your life of stress whenever possible. 

Have a stressful relationship?  Get rid of it.  Have a stressful job?  Quit.  But there are times when you can’t eliminate the stress, for example, when something tragic happens to you or a loved one, or in my case, you actually enjoy the thing that is wreaking havoc on your life.

For the better part of this year I have lead a project that was under staffed with an overly ambitious timeline.  To keep my sanity, I’ve had to make a few adjustments to my normal routine.

Get all the sleep. As the project started to heat up, I made sleep my priority above all other activities, aside from the care of my family. When my sleep is off, everything is off. I start making bad decisions and am truly just rotten to be around. I have even had occasion to fall asleep during a meeting – my colleagues have the pictures to prove it! While 8 hours (or more) of sleep is ideal, I find I can get by on 6 when necessary, getting an additional few hours on the weekend. To ensure that I get my sleep on, I have a few tricks up my sleeve. 

  • Tea in general is relaxing for me.  I prefer a mint or jasmine green tea, but also drink chamomile when it’s bedtime. Yogi Bedtime seems to do the trick if I’m feel particularly wound up. 
  • Melatonin. I don’t use it often, but when I’m having trouble staying asleep, I find that I get 8-10 hours of solid sleep and don’t wake up groggy. Usually the following night’s sleep is just as good.
  • When I have several ideas and/or to-dos bouncing around in my head right before bed, I know it’s a recipe for broken sleep. So before going to bed, I do a brain dump by either writing down or creating a voice memo of all these things. This way I’m not worrying that I won’t remember them and waking up hours earlier than I should. 

Let it go.  Don’t be afraid to let things go.  My training regimen is down to one strength session per week. Yup, just one. I could push myself and ‘get it in’, but I know myself well enough to know that I’d be risking injury. In order to get in more training sessions, I’d have to rob my sleep and that is not an option at present. As an alternative, I make sure I maximize my NEAT throughout my day, walking to work, taking the stairs two at a time, etc. It’s what I can manage at the moment and it helps me to still feel active. 

Find something that relaxes you.  A friend turned me on to Ultimate Yogi over the summer. Of the 14 or so classes, I really only do one – Gentle. This routine relaxes my body and mind like nobody’s business. If I could, I’d do it daily. Whether it’s yoga, meditation or a soothing bath, find something that helps you to unwind, both mentally and physically. 

Eat good. Don’t let stress be an excuse for a poor diet. While I’m not tracking my food currently, another one of those activities that I had to let go, I still manage to eat to my plan…most days. Under normal circumstances, I prepare about 80% of my snacks & meals. Nowadays, it’s closer to 50%. However, I keep some prepared foods on hand, such as Trader Joe’s lightly seasoned grilled chicken, pouches of tuna and salmon. Simply add some veggies, salsa, and avocado for a great meal in minutes. Similarly, when ordering in, I order something similar to what I might have prepared. For snacks, I keep fresh fruit, turkey jerky, quest bars and other protein supplements within my reach. 

My project is in the home stretch, as they say. I’m rounding third and can almost taste the normalcy. For the past few weeks or so my work days have averaged between 12-15 hours, but amazingly, I don’t feel stressed. I miss my normal, but I’m practicing patience knowing that it is not far away.

In the past, I would have been consumed with not gaining weight during this time, ‘working out’ at the same level to maintain a scale number and keeping my cal intake low. Even though my training volume has been reduced substantially, my calorie intake has not changed. My strength is good and I am even hitting a few PRs. My mind is clear and focused. So much of my ability to get through this period is simply due to a better understanding of how my body works and what its needs are.  After two years of EM2WL, it still proves itself to me over and over again. I miss my beloved iron that I only visit once a week, twice if I’m lucky, and my EM2WL peeps. It has been a roller coaster of a year, but I’m still thriving!

A Huge Adjustment – Tricia’s Journey into Power Lifting & Eating More

power liftingIn this newest journey series, Tricia has agreed to allow us to tag along as she ventures into “eat more”  and power lifting territory. Welcome to the fam, Tricia!

It all started when my gift to myself for my 40th birthday was to quit smoking.  After that, a slow transition to clean(er) eating.  A year later, when I was elected Alderperson in my city, the switch flipped.  My extra 100 pounds no longer reflected my level of success and the way I wanted to present myself to the public. I joined Weight Watchers two days later and weighed in at 266 pounds.

Signing up for that program was one of the most frightening things I’d ever done, and I panic-ate the entire first week.  But I went back.  And I continued to go back week after week without fail for over a year. The program worked great for me and really allowed me to slowly break my need to binge every night and taught me about portions and nutrition.

At about 45 pounds down, I started exercising and training for a 5k.  I thought 2 months of training would be plenty even though I had been sedentary for most of my adult life.

That 5k was one of the most frightening things I’d ever done.  I was terrified for the first two miles. I started to calm down a bit by the time I reached the sign that told me the third mile was beginning, and I found my stride. I finished the race in 43 minutes or so, and felt very proud!

At about 60 pounds down, I started a blog – Let’s Talk About Being Fat.  I wanted to expose the “fat brain” and shine a light on the mental and thought challenges that come along with being fat.

At about 65 pounds down, I started power lifting with my personal trainer.  I’d been working with her for about 3 months when she started training me on heavy lifting.  While working with her, I’ve seen my body quickly change and its abilities grow.  It’s exhilarating to experience constant and progressive success!

At about 75 pounds down, it became very clear that Weight Watchers was no longer working for me – and hadn’t been for awhile.  I consulted my trainer and learned that I should actually be eating about 2500 calories a day!

Increasing my food intake was one of the most frightening things I’d ever done.  I worked really hard to get this 75 pounds off, and “eat more” philosophy is counter to what I’ve been told all of my life.  It’s been a challenge to wrap my head around being encouraged to EAT.  And to understand that it’s better for me. But I know when I’m doing it right.  I know when I’m eating clean and eating enough.

I experience the difference in my workouts when I can handle more weight for more reps with less effort.  I experience the difference when I stand up with no hint of the head rush that plagued me all last winter.  I experience the difference when I’m eating to fullness yet can actually breathe better.  This food fuels my body.  It opens me to more physical possibilities.  It removes the limits and the guilt that come with feeling bad about food year after year.

It’s still a huge adjustment – it’s only been a few weeks.  Ignoring the scale is the biggest challenge.  I set out to lose 106 pounds and I’ve stopped (for now, at least) at 75.  But gosh, I’m in the best health of my adult life now at 42.  I can bike and run (well… jog) and swim (well… frantically splash) and lift 195 pounds and I’ve actually signed up for an obstacle course next month!

“What’s next?” is my mantra on this journey.  For starters, a new blog, Adventures in the Physical, where I’ll write about all the super cool and super frightening (to me, anyway) brand new things I can do with my body.

And I’m sure I’ll be letting my trainer talk me into a power lifting competition next spring.

After that?  Who knows.  But I’ll be here, trying and eating and trying again.  The world awaits!

 

 

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EAT MORE?? No way! Another Eat More 2 Weigh Less Success Story!

EAT MORE?? No way! Another Eat More 2 Weigh Less Success Story!

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Thank you for allowing me to share my story.

My weight loss journey began almost 3 years ago when I finally decided that the pain of staying the same was worse than the fear of change. I had been overweight my whole life and lived life as one of the heaviest of all my friends.  At my heaviest, I weighed 265lbs. I am only 5’0″ so that was a lot of weight to carry on my short frame. I had yo-yo dieted all my life and trust me, I had tried everything under the sun including weekly trips to weight loss doctors.  At one point in my life I had become so depressed over the weight that I thought I should try to gain weight in order to become a candidate for weight loss surgery.  I didn’t think I could ever do it on my own.  Thankfully, that only lasted a few weeks and then I came back to reality and realized only I can make the changes I needed to make to save my future.

In December of 2010, I met a wonderful young lady named Kaylee.  She presented some information about a wellness program during one of my staff meetings at work.  There was something about her that seemed genuine, and she seemed like someone who was approachable. I decided to give her a call after the meeting, and she came and met me in my office.  I knew I needed to change my life but I didn’t know where to even start.  I let her know that my original goal was to become a police officer.  I had finished college and was ready to start working on the physical aspect of my life so that I could have a chance at my dream.  Kaylee saw how much I wanted to change and she said that she doesn’t often recommend this for people who are in my shape…but my answer was going to be CrossFit.  I had never even heard of it before but I trusted Kaylee and thought I might as well try one more thing.  I tried everything else already.

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I placed a phone call to the owner of our local box, CrossfitX.  This easy going guy named Travis answered and said he would meet me for my first workout.  Little did I know that getting the courage to walk through those doors would be one of the best decisions I would make in my life. As scared as I was, and as embarrassed as I wanted to be, I told myself I was going to give this one my all.  I have had so many roadblocks along the way but I try to tell myself how lucky I am for this opportunity each day I go back through those doors.  I won’t lie, some days my head gets in my own way and I just want to stop.  But my teammates refuse to let me do that.  This is a journey they have all been on with me each step of the way.  When I started CrossFit I weighed 235lbs and I am now down to 150.  That means 115lbs are gone from my heaviest weight and I am grateful for each and every pound that I have lost because I learned something from each of them.

One of the hardest lessons I have had to get through my head is related to my relationship with food.

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I stalled out after 2 years of training and nothing else was happening.  I became frustrated until I was pointed to sites like yours that told me I needed to fuel my body.  You mean you want me to EAT MORE??  No way!  I fought it tooth and nail until one of my trainers told me this really was what I needed to look into.  As scary as it was, I dived in and began to slowly up my caloric intake from less than 1,000 a day to about 2,200.  The weight started to come off again and every single lift I tried kept going up! I can’t put a price tag on increased strength. As weird as it is each day to fight the old food demons that tell me I should skip a meal to move this weight down, I don’t wan to feel depleted ever again.  I learned my lesson, made the change, and will continue to ride this out until the end.  My new comfort while in my own skin has allowed me a wonderful opportunity to work at a job in sales and marketing.  I am no longer the wallflower who is too afraid to talk.

 

 

 

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